Have you ever surfed or seen surfing? If you go to some beaches, you can see many surfers on the surface of the sea as they wait for a good wave. They have a rule which is one wave one person. But everyone wants to get a good wave, so many times they compete to get it. Conversations are like surfing. Only one person can speak while the other person listens to him/her and wait for their chance to speak. Whether it's one on one conversation or many people, only one person can speak at a time. Otherwise conversation doesn't come into effect. Good surfers have good eyes. I mean they can recognize which wave will be better to surf. If you decide that this wave is good in front of the wave, it's too late. The wave leaves you. Conversation also asks us to recognize where the story will go, or else we can't follow the subject.
When I was in Japan, I wanted to be a good conversation surfer and before I went to pub or Izakaya, I swore to myself that I should listen to other people's opinions and try to recognize what the subject is. I mean when I drink a lot, I can't control myself and I speak too much. Because of my promise, I would say I could have a good time there and I could catch a good wave!
Now, the situation is a little bit different. I can't ride the wave! One on one talking is OK, but when I was in a group, it was difficult for me to find a good wave. I mean, one time many people were talking about some issue and it was difficult for me to guess where the subject would go. As for one on one talking, the half topic is mine but group talking is not. In addition, if I have my opinion and want to say it, I need several minutes to organize in English before I speak. But when I have prepared to speak, everyone is already on another topic. Oh! Where is my wave? Wait!
My situation is just like a floating surfer on the sea. I always wait for my wave and try to catch it, but the wave leaves me. I want to ride the wave called conversation like a professional surfer.
I would say many people have a talent for drawing because they drew a lot when they were kids. I guess as we grow, we don't draw pictures as much and we lose our talent for drawing or forget how to draw bit by bit. Maybe I shouldn't use the word "talent", but anyway, as for me, I'm poor at drowing pictures from the images in my mind. I can't express myself through drawing. For instance, I talk with friend about cars, but I can't draw a car well. It is like a child's drawing and I am so embarrasssed. My drawings end up totally different then from what I imagined. When I was kid, I guess I could draw something from my mind. However, now I have no idea how to draw from my imagination.
I wonder why we quit drawing as we grow? When we were young, we drew a lot though. As we grow, we lose our ablity to draw, but what kind of skill do we get in it's place?
I'm not good at small talking. First reason is that I'm shy and I don't know what I can talk to someone about. I would say many American people are good at small talking and I'm curious what kind of topics they talk about. Especially, first time I meet someone, I have no idea what is a common things to talk about.
Do we talk about the weather? Do I ask "where are you from?"
Even if I use Japanese, it is difficult to find the topics. My problem is not only my English is not good but also I have no idea to talk about. If I talk about myself, it sounds selfish. I guess asking something about a person is better. But what can I ask about him/her?
What do you do? Where do you live?
Usually, what do you talk about when you make small talk? Do you have recommended topics or strategy?
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I always have to guess to understand what people are talking about because I can't hear everything. I can hear only a few words and always guess what he/she is talking about. Especially, talking with people whom I don't know is one of the most difficult situations for me.I think there are two reasons for this.
One is I don't know his/her way of thinking. For instance, I have a friend who is Korean. His English is not good (like me) but I know his way of thinking. So I can guess what he wants to talk about. Sometimes, even though he said just one word, I could understand him and vice versa.
Another is they don't seem to care I'm not good at English. I would say they can recognize my mother tongue isn't English but their talking speed doesn't change at all. I'm not sure, but I guess almost all my acquaintances think about me, so they speak a little slower and use easier English and that's why I can guess easier than unknown people.
I had an episode. When I went to English school, some of my class mates said something in class. All of my classmates could understand what he wanted to say but my teacher couldn't. My hypothesis is like this. We always use broken English and guess something. And our guess abilities are better than my teacher even if we talk using English. Even though I could hear just one word, some times I can guess what my friends talk about.
Actually, I don't want to guess. I really want to hear more exactly because I often misunderstand, as my guess is not correct... I can hear only a few words and it's difficult to guess.
今回はマイケル・ジャクソンの曲、「Jam」です。1991年にリリースされた「Dangerous」の中の一曲です。久々に聞きたくなって最近買ってしまいました。中古で$3.95なり。このアルバムではテディ・ライリーという人がアルバム中の多くの曲をプロデュースしてます。この人はNew Jack Swingというジャンル（？）を築き上げた立役者でもあります。アルバムを通してドラムを強調した音作りがされていて僕好み！